Question by Daniel K: My ex girlfriend has been calling me drunk after we broke up 2 months ago, How can I win her back?
My ex girlfriend calls me drunk after nearly 2 months since she broke up with me, help!?
Last weekend my ex calls me (probably drunk) 3 times & once from her friend’s phone at 3am on Saturday night/sunday morning (6th march).
My phone was on silent so I didn’t pick up.
It got me thinking why she had called… I thought about ringing her the next day but didn’t want to come across as needy
So I waited until Friday where I was 90% going to call but refused the urge. It got until 2am Friday night / Saturday morning & she called me. I had just woke for some reason anyway so I answered and played it as cool I could considering how shocked i was.
She was drunk and was asking why I didn’t answer or call back from last week… I made up that I didn’t know she’d called. She was saying things like ‘i’ve missed you’ and ‘i love you’ and saying ‘we need to sort it out’ and ‘we love each other’ she said she got a really good pay rise at work and she wanted share the good times with, she was going on and on and saying we can sort it out and I should move down south and we can get a flat together, then she was saying dirty stuff trying to entice me in.
It all made me feel very happy so I was trying to play it so cool but really didn’t know what to say, I tried to make it out like I was shocked and teased her about being drunk, she was asking things like ‘do you miss me’ which I replied ‘at times’, she also asked if I still love her I said ‘there’s a little bit in my heart somewhere’
So it carried on with her blabbering away & she was asking if we should meet up, I acted like I wasn’t sure about it, I tried to play it cool but in my head I knew I wanted to and can’t help but think it came across that I wanted to deep inside as I was saying ‘maybe’ and then ‘well i suppose we could’.
So she called me a few times that night. she was asking me if i had a girlfriend & why i didn’t call back last week again, then she popped up with ‘I’ve got a boyfriend but I wanna work it out with you’ (I’m pretty sure her BF is her ex who I think she left me for).
I lost my cool only a little, I said ‘what, you’ve got a boyfriend, I can’t believe your telling me this after ringing and saying all of this’ and she was then saying she could come up tomorrow in her car i was saying ‘but you’ve got a boyfriend… i only want u to come up if you’re 100% sure ‘ anyway we carried on speaking about general stuff then I said we’ll speak in the morning about it…
So in the morning it was getting till about 12 o’clock so I thought I’d call and test the water a little bit & also because she hadn’t called yet & I was thinking she would leave it too late to come down (i really wish I hadn’t called even it meant no contact all day)
So i was speaking with her, she still seemed warm & a little embarrassed, she didn’t drop the ‘i love u’ or any of the more serious stuff, she was saying that she missed me etc and a bit more sexual stuff… i teased her a little about the stuff she was saying and my intuition tells me this kind of gave her a reality check about what she’s done and has probably made her confused as how its come off on me & maybe gave her second thoughts… I asked if she was coming down… she said she didn’t know as it’s so far away and she also said her boyfriend will be thinking where am I… (this really angered me, the way she can just switch me on & off) but I played it as cool as I could & said to call later when she’s not at her friends…
So we didn’t speak all day until 10.30pm when i initiated some dirty messages which finishes when she sends “your so dirty danny, i’ve just *** haha’, I was sending these texts trying to come across as the fun guy again but I’m not sure if I should of just backed off….
I don’t know what she wants… I don’t know how I should play this from now on… I get the impression she called this week as she was desperate for me because she was thinking i’ve gone away and not going to be there for her when things are bad with her boyfriend,
Even though I was trying to play it so cool, I can’t help but think she has it in her head now that she can have me if she wants me… I feel i could of played the cat & mouse game a little bit better & I still do feel like i’m right in the game but I need to come across as a harder catch again…
When and if we next speak I want to come across a lot harder and I think I need to lay a few boundaries to show her I am no push over
I was thinking of maybe sending a text like:
Look i don’t think this is going work out between us, you’ve got a boyfriend, you don’t know what you want, i think we should call it quits and get on with our lives. We had fun but i just don&
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Answer by DR + Mrs Bears face
An ex is an ex for a reason. It didn’t work.
You cannot go back so move on and find a girl with whom it does work
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